I can already hear you.

“What do you mean ‘let’ myself release the weight, Suyin? That’s all I want! That’s all I keep striving for!”

Well, you can strive all day long, but until you let yourself release the weight, you will continue to sabotage yourself.

If you are holding on to excess weight (or you put it right back on when you do lose it), there is a belief present that is stronger that the one that says, “I want to lose weight.”

I go into detail about this in Chapter 17 of my book Love Yourself Lighter: How to End Your Weight Struggle by Changing the Way You Think, but in a nutshell it boils down to you “hiring” the excess weight to do a job for you. It’s there for a reason.

Maybe that reason is to keep love at bay so that you don’t get your heart broken.

Or maybe you use the excess weight as an excuse not to move forward in your life, which allows you to avoid the risk of failure—or success.

Or maybe you use it as a way to “fit in” or stay connected with others—because if you were thinner, you fear you might stand out, or be judged, or be rejected.

In order to let yourself release the weight, you need to believe that it’s safe to do so.

I invite you to write down the reasons why you’re choosing to wear the extra weight and take some time to evaluate those reasons.   You may find that once you look at it in this context, it’s easy to decide that you no longer need to hold on to the weight anymore and can begin the process of genuinely letting it go.

Here are some Power Thoughts to practice to help you shift your mind:

It’s safe to release excess weight because I trust myself to make smart choices in relationships.

It’s safe to release excess weight because I am a strong, capable person who can manage any situation with grace and ease.

It’s safe to release excess weight because people like me for me, not for what I look like.

Now, why is it safe for YOU to let yourself release the excess weight you’ve been holding on to?

Once you believe your answer, releasing it as good as done.


If you are finding it difficult to figure out the job you’ve hired the excess weight to do, or maybe you’ve figured it out but are having a hard time believing it’s safe to let go of the weight, perhaps investing in some coaching sessions would help.  Click here to view my website and make an appointment with me for a complimentary mini-session.  I’d love to talk with you and explore the ways coaching can help you create the outcomes you desire. I look forward to hearing from you!