How do you measure your life? In pounds on the scale, or the size tag in your clothes?

Or do you measure your life in extraordinary experiences, beautiful moments, or how many times you laughed today?

There was a time in my life when all I cared about was how much I weighed. Each day was consumed with how much I could or couldn’t eat. I missed so many social events because I didn’t like the way I looked.

So much energy wasted.

So many tears shed in self-hate.

So many potentially great memories that were never made because I stayed home, swimming in self-induced shame.

Looking back, I have compassion for my former self. I didn’t know how to measure my life beyond my weight. But as Maya Angelou says, “When you know better, you do better.”

If you are ready to stop measuring your life in pounds, let me share with you the tool that helped me to broaden such a narrow form of measurement:

A Gratitude Journal.

Get yourself a pretty journal and a pen you like to write with. At the end of each day, write down at least three things that you were grateful for. It could be something beautiful you noticed in nature, or a moment of kindness between you and another human being, or something about yourself that you were proud of that day.

I invite you to be really consistent with this practice. If you know that you are going to be writing down three things you’re grateful for at the end of the day, this trains your brain to automatically look things to be grateful for. This completely shifts how you look at your life—and how you participate in it.

Become a Collector of Good.

Become a person who is always on the lookout for the good in her world, and for the good in herself.


You are so much more than what you weigh.

Focus on what you want your life to look like, not just your body.

No one wants to look back on their life and see that they had missed it because their view was limited to a tiny window on a bathroom scale.

You don’t need to wait until 2016 to start this practice. Holiday time is the perfect time to begin noticing what’s great in your life.  There is an abundance of goodness happening all around you if you decide to look for it.

You can also start creating amazing memories to add to your collection.  Say YES to invitations; attend that party you were on the fence about; or host a get-together at your place with friends you love to spend time with.  People don’t care what you look like; they want to spend time with YOU, not your looks.  Don’t let another opportunity to make a great memory go by.

Happy Collecting! May your heart and your Gratitude Journal always be full.