Love Yourself More in 2016

Earlier this month I was invited to be a guest on Lisa Hayes’s radio show, Love, Life & Law of Attraction, to talk about the important role Self-Love plays in ending your struggle with weight (you can listen to the interview here). At the end of the show Lisa asked me if I had any final thoughts to share and a quote I saw on Pinterest immediately popped into my mind:

“What if you simply devoted this year to loving yourself more?”

With the annual ritual of the New Year’s Resolution looming, this question really spoke to me. If I knew the person’s name, not only would I give them credit for this quote, but I would also thank him or her for asking such a great question.

Most diet & exercise plans that begin on January 1st (or the Monday immediately following) are not coming from a place of love. The catalysts for embarking on such plans are usually feelings of desperation, shame, or some degree of self-loathing.

There is also an air of “all-or-nothing” that accompanies the new diet or exercise plan—and if you don’t stick with it (let’s be real, it’s hard to stick with something that feels like punishment), the verbal beat-down you give yourself definitely does not feel like love.

An alternative to the resolution of old is to try something new. In this case, I’m inviting you to do as the quote says and devote this year to loving yourself more.

If you’re not exactly sure where to start, I’ve come up with a free Self-Love Guide called 5 Ways to Start Loving Yourself When You Don’t Know How, which you can find here.

Focusing on loving yourself still might look like taking actions to change, but the motivation that drives those actions comes from a very different place:

  • You choose healthier food to eat because you feel better and have more energy when you do that.
  • You choose to exercise regularly because it boosts your mood and makes it possible for you be as active as you want to be in your life.
  • You choose to drink less alcohol because you sleep better and feel more refreshed in the morning.

When you take care of yourself from a place of love, it feels good.

And self-care actions that feel good are sustainable.

This means you get to keep the results you create.

Which further means that you get to be done with having to make another weight-related New Year’s Resolution ever again.

Happy New Year to you and here’s to you loving yourself more in 2016!

Don’t forget to get your free Self-Love Guide here.

Stop Fighting The Awesome

Have you ever noticed how much little children like themselves? They love to play and laugh, they think their bodies are cool and fascinating, and they are never afraid to ask for what they want. They know how awesome they are and have a great sense of self-worth… until they are conditioned out of it.

You are naturally awesome.  Deep down you know this this is true, but you are fighting it.  You have bought into negative programming for so long, that you would rather deny your Inner Awesome than give up the identity you have built on a foundation of lies.

No one can blame you.  You were not taught that you have the option of rejecting a belief that feels bad, so you hold on to it, even if it causes you to create emotional pain for yourself.

And it is painful to deny what’s awesome about you, isn’t it?  Your goodness is constantly rising to the surface, but you spend great deal of energy trying to push it down.

When you sabotage yourself just as you are beginning to see results, you are fighting the awesome

When you put having fun on hold, you are fighting the awesome.

When you squash your own joy with judgments and mean self-talk, you are fighting the awesome.

You can stop now.

A former client who was working on releasing the habit of self-sabotage once said to me, “Actually, shining comes quite naturally. I’m seeing that it takes a lot of work to NOT be shining.”

Ain’t that the truth!